Tips for Managing Grief

Caregiving leaves its mark on us. No matter what we do to prepare ourselves, the hole left behind looms large. - Dale L. Baker

Understand that Grief is Normal

Grief is the expected response to death. It can be intense pain, sadness, disbelief, anger or guilt. It's the tears, numbness and physical exhaustion and the rush of memories and the yearning for the person you lost.

Allow Yourself to Mourn

Mourning is the outward or public expression of grief, a means of sharing grief with people who also are grieving or who want to support you. Religious rituals, cultural traditions and personal beliefs often shape how we mourn. Whatever form it takes, mourning is a critical process that can help you lessen the intensity of grief and help you adapt to your loss.

Take Care of Yourself

Grief commonly results in disrupted sleep, a loss of appetite and a lack of interest in everyday tasks. All factors that can affect your health and well-being. Be mindful of your health and daily habits. Try to get adequate sleep, eat a healthy diet and exercise regularly. You might find that including a friend in meal or exercise routines can keep you motivated. Consider a medical checkup to ensure your health has not declined, especially if you have any existing health conditions.

Don't make Major Decisions while Grieving

Grief might cloud your ability to make sound decisions. If possible, postpone big decisions, such as moving, taking a new job or making major financial changes. If you must make decisions right away, seek input from a trusted family member or friend.

Remember that Grief is Unpredictable

Grief doesn't move along a predictable path or at a fixed pace. The overwhelming grief following your loss will become more of a cycle of grief. And over time your grief will likely become more subdued and may feel less constant. But long after a death, you may also find yourself caught off guard by a moment of profound grief, for example, on the anniversary of the death, during holidays or on your loved one's birthday.